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While stress continues to plague one’s life each day, humans are now finding newer ways to combat it. Gone are the days when one resorted to simpler things like making lists and meditating to relieve stress and feel hormonally stable. The newest remedy adopted by people worldwide is to indulge in some form of erotica in order to de-stress and experience happiness. According to Michelle Williamson, a renowned sex therapist, “ indulging in different forms of erotica triggers happy hormones which makes a person experience a rush and forget the reasons that caused the distress in the first place.”
Listed below are a few ways in which people can turn to erotica in order to distress:
An erotic massage
The simplest and most underrated stress reliever. With a number of sensual massage parlours increasing each day employing experienced masseuse who excel at the art of triggering the various pleasure points with nimble finger movements, it is obvious that an erotic massage is the simplest yet most effective way to distress. The erotic massages usually range from light touching to deep massage and include kissing, light tickling, long stroking movements, one-finger touch to sensitive areas or involving external objects like ice cubes, feathers and candle wax. The options are limitless. In order to reduce stress, slow, rhythmic motions are ideal. The main idea is to help the take off one’s mind from the various issues they are facing. Adding relaxing, soothing music and aromatherapy oils to the experience is always a good idea.
Apart from stress, these kinds of massages can prove to be beneficial in reducing anxiety and curing aches.
An erotic novel to the rescue.
Watching erotic movies come as a no-brainer as people all over the world are a testimony of how effective it can be in terms of relieving stress. However, in some cases, people do not want things to get too visual and reading an erotic book or a comic strip seems like a better option in that case. Most women like a good story as they get engrossed in it and forget about what is happening around. Wrapping yourself in the erotic fantasy the story helps take your mind of various pressures by escaping from reality for some time. It can also help you get back in touch with your sensual side and lack of sex/romance is a major cause for stress.
A few great erotica novels you could distress with are Lick by Kylie Scott, Little Cat by Tamara Faith Berger, Bared to you by Sylvia Day, The Sexual Life of Catherine M by Catherine Millet and Thérèse and Isabelle by Violette Leduc.
Pair up with your partner for steamy couple yoga
Yoga is known to be an amazing stress reliever; however, in the world of erotic opportunities, one can always spice things up by opting for partner/couple’s yoga. The simplest of stretches can loosen up the tensed muscles in your body and help you breathe better. It is absolutely essential to communicate (non-verbally) and coordinate the postures with your partner in order to be able to relax and execute a posture properly. Partner Yoga helps in achieving deep relaxation and emotional healing as well as works the magic back into your relation like a charm. A few poses resemble lovemaking poses and are known to increase your libido thus releasing endorphins and reducing the amount of cortisol (stress-producing hormone).
Partner Yoga relaxes your mind better than simple Yoga poses as it releases feel-good hormones like serotonin and dopamine in greater quantities. A few Yoga poses to up the erotic levels while de-stressing are Yab Yum, Boat pose, Stacked child’s pose, Baddha Konasana and the infinity pose.
Invest in good adult toys
The next best thing to having intercourse is using sex toys for achieving an intense orgasm. These toys which are created to be safe and pleasurable are a quick fix to relieving any kind of distress in a private environment. The best part about using toys like vibrators or penis rings are that these toys can be accessed at any time and by providing the requisite stimulation to your erogenous zones, you can unplug your mind from stressful events in no time.
Using sex toys help in elevating your mood by releasing endorphins and oxytocin (also known as the love hormone). These biochemical substances are essential as they calm your central nervous system thus fostering a calmer and healthier mind.
It was found out that a person who isn’t sexually active is more likely to be frustrated and stressed. In cases where a person might not want to have sex, toys are the best option in order to keep the libido flowing, the sex drive alive and cortisol levels low. One just needs to let go of inhibitions and invest in a toy from a varied range s/he thinks will do the job the best.
If you aren’t convinced already, you simply need to free your mind of barriers and give the various forms of stress-relieving erotica options a chance.
Written byNiharika Nandi
Niharika Nandi is a media trainee who loves exploring the fields of photography and baking simultaneously. She’s a self-proclaimed professional bathroom singer and believes that caffeine runs through her veins. This adrenaline junkie loves to pen down a million thoughts gushing through her mind at any instant and is very vocal about LGBTQ rights.